Moving On...

Okay, so I haven't written on this blog in a while. Unlike the other one, this one is dedicated to my spiritiual journey. I haven't had any reason to write in a while. Infact, I didn't want to write period. I hit a brick wall and I just stopped. I couldn't stand right back up. I don't know if this counts as a testimony...or a personal encounter or whatever. I don't know if there's a lesson for you in all of this. But I truly hope that it does something. What I do know, it's that this is going to take more than one post. So...stay with me till the end okay?

Writing has always been therapeutic for me. It has helped me in the past to move past intense pain. I've even written to the ones that can no longer reply me. This time, ehn! I'm going to try and describe how I felt without being too melodramatic. Have you ever almost drowned? Do you know that burning in your lungs? Then it kinda feels like your heart is beating faster than normal?  There's also the part where you know you're suffocating but you no longer remember how to breath? I'm sorry...am I describing how you think dying might feel? Lol...for a moment I thought I was going to die. I actually felt like dying. But that's just wishful thinking. It's never that easy.

I listened to people tell me over and over again to just move on. To just forget. I wanted to scream at them all, "If it was that easy, do you think I wouldn't have done that?" One thing I got from all of this, is that I am a strong and courageous woman. I never even knew I had that much of God inside of me. I didn't know I had eaten enough of the word for it to speak peace into my storm. In my time of silence, I heard God speak because His word was safely hidden in my heart.

I'm yet to get to the gist of the matter. I guess you're just gonna have to wait for the next post....

Story: "THE GLORY"

Here is a true life story in a summary form. I hope you all learn from it. Enjoy.

By: Hafeez Oshundairo

She kept steering at the sky wondering why the weather was bright. What is going on? Any new thing is about to happen? But no sign of new things. So why is the sky so bright? A lovely lady, Hellen, at the sea port confused about the brightness of the sky. Hellen, a 22 years old lady. She is light in complexion; an adorable lady that men the in the city where she reside which to knot her. Hellen, looked more confused as the weather changed again as if it would rain in few seconds.

Lots of preparation out there, invitations everywhere. Both families are in happy mood. Meeting upon meeting; greetings upon greetings.

Just few weeks to Hellen wedding but no mother-in-law. She kept wondering how the day will look like without her blessing. Few minutes later her fiancé got to where she sat, but speechless. Soliloquy, How will I explain all this to her? Who will be my mother? Should I use my mother’s sister? But I think it is better to go like that without her because, she can’t express like my mother. 

Hellen, I want to explain something to you. What? Hellen responded; I know your mother isn’t alive so what do you want to say again? Don’t worry, the wedding would hold, if that is what is bothering you. There are many in there sweet home without mother-in-law, so don’t let that bother you dear. Olamilekan was glad to hear that from Hellen; he knelt before and give her warm hug while crying. 

Hellen who hails from Benin republic is an action lady who doesn’t like cheating or lies. She act when it is time; she doesn’t fight a lost battle. She met Olamilekan along her way to her shop where she served as apprentice for few years before becoming self-boss of her own. 

Olamilekan pestered Hellen for months before she agreed. Every evening, on her way back home Olamilekan would block her across the bridge saying, “The fragrance of your body soupçons my soul and if I can come near, How long can I control my senses?” In response, Mr. Man what the hell is you talking about? When your senses are ok then control them. Arsehole! Despite all her actions, Olamilekan didn’t relent. 

He kept thriving so as to get her. While getting home, he sat thinking of what technique to use for Hellen. Olamilekan decided to compose a poem for her. Immediately, he consulted his close friend. What are friends for? But Olamilekan was so desperate. He and his friend sat and compose the poem which was written in a cardboard.

After so much time devoted to compose the expensive poem, Helen still ignored him by disgracing him across the road. But nothing could be done, after few months, good result came out from his hardwork. Helen finally agreed for Olamilekan few months to her birthday. 

What a great news for Olamilekan… so speechless. Olamilekan is a muslim while Helen is from Christian family. Can this work out?The two of them understood each other and their relationship didn’t affect their religion. 

After few months, they both got married. Olamilekan’s mother wasn’t on seat but her sister stood on her behalf. Wow! What a cool sister! Helen do say then. After some years, Helen went to the village and took along with her husband’s aunt to the town. 

While getting to the house, they call her mama. Mama looked cool, but she kept looking at the way she would use to penetrate Olamilekan’s heart so that he will be doing all what she want. Olamilekan wasn’t happy when he saw her in his house because he knows the kind of person she is.

After some years with them, they gave her a room and a shop to start a petty trade. They gave her all what she wanted, but she never got satisfied. What kind of woman is this? Helen kept wondering. 

To cut the story short, Mama spent 16years with them, but she kept fighting them day in day out. She got involved in juju, trying to separate Helen and Olamilekan. Mama’s only daughter also joined her mother in fighting with the use of juju. But all their efforts were abortive. They tried their worst but none worked out. 

Helen later realized that she is the bad egg among others, but that didn’t stop her from greeting her. But the woman decided not to respond to all her greetings. 

Helen told her husband the reason why she brought her to town, because she was sleeping with different men in the village despite she had a husband. If she knew her behavior from the start she won’t have done such.

After 16years with them and she realized she couldn’t separate them and destroy the family, Mama left the house in the midnight for no one to see her…(what a shame). What a glory for Helen and Olamilekan.

Here comes 2017, if you are in a relationship or marital home, always be prayerful to concur your enemies as Helen finally concurred Mama and also don’t hide anything from each other, assuming Olamilekan told Helen who Mama was, she won’t had brought her to stay with them. Those saying Muslim and Christian cant marry, please note that it can happen once the both parties understood each other. As Yoruba do say “olorun maje ki a si ore se”, we won’t render help that will turn against us. Please be careful with the kind of help you render; people are not the same again. I PRAY MAY YOUR DAYS BE LONG, WHEN IT’S TIME TO FACE YOUR FEARS MAY YOU BE STRONG! 2017 IS YOUR YEAR OF GLORY. LOVE YOU ALL. HAPPY NEW YEAR

HAFEEZ OSHUNDAIRO

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ASCERTAIN THE REAL YOU!!!

BY: OSHUNDAIRO HAFEEZ

It may seem like a straightforward question, who are you and why are you here? Most would perfectly provide an answer by giving their name without giving it much thought to it.
Conversely, on subterranean consideration, do you really have deep understanding of who you are?

One of the great ironies of today’s world is that of mind-boggling: majority of people in the world are trying their positive best to adapt to what someone else wants them to be. It is often so refined that we fail to realize that that is what we are doing. According to Sarah McLachlan, “We’re constantly being told what other people think we are, and that’s why it is so important to know yourself." This is mostly common at many levels. For instance, the rate of Cultural imperialism has been portray by the broadcast media (Television) with images of how we should look and dress, what we should eat and drink, what car we should drive and even what kind of person we should marry. Some even go as far as telling us how to fall in love! Imaging!

We keep on searching for things that will help us define who we are. In-fact the mainstream of populaces have no sense of identity apart from the clothes they put on, the car they ride, where they reside, who they are conjugal to and all sorts. Hmmmm! If we had to strip you of everything you own and leave you on some landmass away from everything you think defines you, would you still have a vibrant nous of who you are? What delimits or defines you?

Some would have deep thought of themselves because of their physique. The image of their face and body defines who they are. If we were to remove you from your body, would you still be able to identify to know who you are? It sounds weird. I know, but realize that man is a spirit; he lives in a body and has a soul. Your body is simply a means of conveying yourself and interrelating with your corporeal milieu.
Hence, your physique is not really who you are. At the core of it, you are more than that. In-fact that is why it is so rigid for societies to fully understand and go up in price that they are. Who you are cannot be perceived, gratified, sensed, heard or tasted. Your senses cannot tell you who you are.

Based on Ralph Waldo Emerson warning, “The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment." So you are sacrificing something when you go through life blindly conforming to everything. You sacrifice your true potential and purpose, which you can only fulfill when you truly understand yourself.

“Our true identity, then, lies within us, not outside of us. We should define who we are based on our thoughts, our values, principles and beliefs”. It’s okay to have material things and all, but they should not be our sense of self. They are just things that are there to make our lives easier. If you were suddenly homeless today that would not change who you are as a person. You would still be you.

Sidney J. Harris also included that “Ninety percent of the world's woe comes from people not knowing themselves, their abilities, their frailties, and even their real virtues. Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves." It may appear like a hyperbole, but it is so. Many dearth an indulgent of who they are, without which they are unable to know what they care capable of achieving in life

My people “choose not to live in ignorance about who you are and what you can do. Decide today to discover more about yourself and to start on the journey of self-discovery”. You are all you can be. Go on and be it.

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Discovering/Finding Your Purpose (Conclusion)

The first step in finding or discovering your purpose in life is asking questions. I will list some of the questions I feel might truly be of help.

1. What are you dissatisfied or unhappy about: Have you always felt like you were in the wrong occupation? Does it look like something is missing in your career? Has work become dreary and dull? Are you no longer motivated to give your best at work? Sometimes lack of peace or joy might be an indicator that we're on the wrong path, othertimes it could be spiritual warfare. Prayer is needed to discern which it is. You need to pray, meditate on God's word, seek wise counsel and then start thinking towards a change (if you need one).

2. What do others say about you: Here I'm not talking about the negativity people are prone to throw our way. Let me explain with this illustration. I started writing when I was younger. My imagination was out of this world. I would write stories during the day so I would have a bedtime story for my brother at night (he never forgot to ask for one). I thought nothing of it. Then when I got to high school, I found if I wanted to express myself perfectly, I had better write a letter. My English teacher then was a big help. He kept telling me I could be a writer, but back then, I really wanted to be a doctor. So I stayed on in science class jeje.

Then I evolved from just writing to express myself to writing about matters of the heart, relationship fix-ups and so on. It got so that people started coming to me for advice when they reached a sticky spot in their relationships. After each advice, they would say words like, "you could do this for a living you know" "do you want to be the next Oprah ni" "you're good at this". I eventually started listening to what they were saying and I slowly started rearranging my life choices, I moved from sciences to arts...I started taking online courses in psychology...I joined groups online that brought creative writers together...I found real life mentors that already tread the path I want to...I haven't reached the zenith of my ladder but I'm happy and I can tell I'm on the right path for me. I hope that explains what I mean. You've got to listen to what people say about you...they can tell you what you're truly good at.

3. What are you passionate about: Let me put it this way...what makes you angry, happy, sad, excited...what brings out a bunch of reactions from you? I once told a spiritual mentor of mine that I feel my ministry is to the female gender. Young and old. I'm angry when they've been molested, abused or taken advantage of. No matter how good a friend a guy is to me, he knows the moment he disrespects his woman or baby mama in anyway, our friendship is on rocky grounds. I can't bear to see a woman crying. I can't bear to see her ache for her man or her child. I'm aware of what I'm passionate about. I've created a niche that mostly speaks to women and I've even been working on other projects that boost this passion of mine.

I once read in a book by Joel Osteen, "what if you're the answer to most of the questions that pop up in your head?" (Paraphrased by me) So, the next time you think, "why doesn't somebody do something about....?" Why don't you think of anything little or big you can do about it too. If we wait for someone else to do everything, nothing will get fixed!

4. What are your gifts: Billy Graham wrote in one if his books that God gave everyone a gift or gifts. Everyone has one. I know that to be a fact. I doubt there's anyone living that doesn't have a gift. The only problem might be they are yet to discover what their gift is/are.

What is that one thing you do better than others? Your gifts are hints to what your purpose in life is.

In conclusion, I sincerely believe that since God created each and everyone of us for a purpose, He is more than able to reveal what that purpose is to us...if only we ask. During the last Shiloh at the Youth Alive Forum, Pastor David Oyedepo Jnr. said over and over again that no one is a biological accident. It doesn't matter if you were a result of an unplanned pregnancy out of wedlock or an orphan...you were created for a purpose. You are a child of destiny.

We are all vessels. Ultimately fulfilling our purpose is fulfilling God's purpose. God doesn't only want to bless us, He wants us to be a blessing. Therefore, that should let us know that our purpose is finding out what God wants to do through us.

Pray that God shows you what moves you, your talents and your gifts. Make a list and with the help of the Holy Spirit, I'm certain you'll find your purpose and that you'll fulfill destiny!!!

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Discovering/Finding Your Purpose (Intro).

Wow...I haven't written in a while...it's been 2 months of my emotions running helter skelter not sure of what they wanted to do. I lost my grandfather exactly 2 months ago and he was finally put to rest last week Saturday. I know he lived a full life and left to be with the Lord at a ripe old age but his death truly shocked me. It created a certain void I didn't know could exist. I still miss him. And his loss made it so hard for me to write anything I would want to publish and make public. My words were just too raw and filled with so much emotion.

I'm a little better now. Not that I stopped missing him or crying when I suddenly think about him, but I finally am at peace with his loss. I know death is the inevitable end of man and that my grandfather had never been afraid of going to meet his Creator. I know he's definitely in a better place.

His death got me wondering about so many things though. Some of which I've wondered about in the past and shrugged off. Nowadays, they seem to linger. One of such is the fact that man was created for a purpose but it is up to man to discover what that purpose is!

Life always seems boring, unexciting and dreary for those living without having figured out what their purpose is. What is my God-ordained purpose? What is yours? What exactly does God have in mind for me? What are His plans for my life? Why was I created? Why was I born here? What am I supposed to be doing? Is this all there is to life? There has got to be more, right?

I'm sure the above questions have gone through our minds at some point in our lives. One of the reasons some people who have everything seem to be uncontented and unhappy with their lives is because of lack of purpose. The key to living a fulfilled life is by finding your purpose.

In my next post we'll be looking at ways by which we can discover/find our purpose.

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NEVER GIVE IN TO NEGATIVITY

 

BY HAFEEZ OSHUNDAIRO

   
 The world is what we think it is. If we can change our thoughts, we can change our world.

Has been created by the Most high, your brain has the faculty and it’s able to store and accept two various kinds of thoughts: Positive and Negative. Most human under planet Earth quay more negative thoughts than positive, but some are 50/50 which makes their mind play a tug of war per se’, on a daily basis. However, there is an elucidation to it.

On every occasion a thought get into your mind, a negative or bad thought, it’s expected of you to think of a positive thought you can extract out of that negative thought that will make that thought a positive one. As you keep this act day by day, thought after thought, the thoughts that your mindset accepts will start to sway to the positive, where the negative will be overweighed.

As time pass by and you keep repeating this process and implement it into your life, as a way of philosophy and storing thoughts will become positive in nature and will disallowed negative thought in your mind. They will stay on the outside where you will be able to brush them off with ease and forget they ever existed.

In time, all bad emotions will go away as well like antagonism, antipathy, depression, doubt and fear, to name a few. You will also gain confidence in yourself as a person and learn more about yourself, things you never realized about yourself such as your inner strength, enthusiasm, aspiration, keenness and bravery. This is not over night process and it consumes time… maybe a long time. So be patience with this process. Time is the biggest helper that you can have on your side when you institute change in your life, especially a life altering change such as this.

In this life, the only thing is, you must not quit on yourself or give in to negativity. No matter how the circumstances and difficulties you must not quit.

Never backpedal and take steps backwards in this process because of pressures of your life and daily routine. This is a process in which your life as you knows it, can and will, be transformed into more of enjoyable, happy and complete life.

A positive mindset is very easy to obtain, but it takes time and Patience. My people ‘NEVER GIVE IN TO NEGATIVITY’

Written by: Hafeez Oshundairo @iam_hamton

MAKE A DIFFERENCE (M.A.D)

As humans, we are all gifted and endowed with a unique set of skills and
abilities. With those abilities we can make extra-ordinary things turn around positively in the world around us, or remain the same. You only can determine whether you want your life to make a difference and what difference you want your life to make. In this world, many people set lofty goals for their lives and want to be remembered as visionaries, they want to turn things around and impact positively to the world. Others want to be remembered as Good Samaritans.

Who is referred to as the better person? The one who changes the world or the one who saves the individual? Don't bask in the euphoria of doing incredible things only; just being there for the people around you can save someone from a
meaningless life and help them lead the life they were meant to live. Small things matter. Changing the life of another person is an incredible feeling and it is
completely within your grasp. You can engage in this by deciding to become a mentor to a young ambitious person. You can also be of help to them by helping them avoid the mistakes you have made and by helping them learn from the ones they will inevitably make themselves.

Nevertheless, you will often see someone get treated unfairly. It happens both professionally and socially, individuals who deserve recognition do not get it. By taking up their side and make sure
others get what they deserve and earn, you will be a true hero. You will make a lasting impact on their lives and you will be rewarded with love and help in the future when you are in need. The law of karma says that whatever you do you will get back threefold, helping others is
therefore a selfish act, but still a good act, one that you should do without fear, with love and with the knowledge that you will one day be rewarded.

Always remember, compromise is the enemy of long term commitment, if you have committed to helping someone by being their mentor or by fighting for their rights, don't stop half way. Go the distance and see it through. Actions speak louder than words.

Do not let 2015 spill over into 2016. In truth we might all be here to help each other, we might all be a part of a machine that fosters cooperation. We might just be here to make the best of the situation for ourselves. In any case, helping others brings happiness and prosperity into your own life, so for whatever reason you chose to help others, it will always help you in return. The difference between stopping half way and finishing isn't much in terms of the work you put in, but in the difference for the individual you are helping..

My people, make a difference in 2016.
Compliments of the season!

Oshundairo Hafeez